Child Support Sucks

MiSDU - Passing the Buck - AGAIN!

2006-08-08T14:23:00.000-07:00

I shouldn't be shocked, but I am. I'm literally on the floor, stunned with amazement at the ineffectiveness and downright stupidity of our state's efforts to "help" children by driving their parents absolutely crazy with non-sense.

I got another letter from MiSDU this afternoon. Inside was a letter from some dude named "Ralph" (good robot name, I suppose. Ralph doesn't have a last name, and neither do robots.) The letterhead has a "Tier" logo on it. Who ever the fuck they are. Who the hell is Tier? How many fucking bureaucratic department are in involved with the extortion of parents, anyway?? We have FOTC, then we have MiSDU, and now this "Tier" outfit. WTF??

Anyway... The letter states as follows:

"August 04, 2006

Ms. Isanhart,

Received your fax today, and after review it appears that this was a banking error. The MICR codes on the bottom of the check were not read properly and the bank couldn't find your account.

I've enclosed your original check so that you can see where the problem was. I'm also sending you another copy of the letter and envelope that we sent you.

Please send in another check for $65.00 to cover the check that didn't go through. I've waived the 20.00 fee. Once I receive your check, I will clear your account.

Ralph
MISDU
(phone number deleted to protect this turkey's non-existent integrity)"

1) I never faxed these idiots. I wouldn't know how to fax them if my life depended on it.

2) They did NOT return my original check. They returned a yellow copy of it with tons of numbers and crap on it, and a rubber stamp that says "RETURN REASON - E UNABLE TO LOCATE ACCT." I have no idea who rubber stamped the check, but anyone with half a brain would have tried to send it through again, especially since several other checks were cashed from the exact same account.

3) I mailed them a money order for $85.00 on 7/29/06 to cover this check in question, which they should have received by the next business day, as usual, along with a letter from myself, which was conveniently not mentioned, and a copy of the letter from my bank, which I will be forced to visit AGAIN about this tomorrow, because I can't send them another $65.00 because of their incompetence.

4) Too late to "waive the 20.00 fee," retard. It's already been submitted to you, as you originally demanded. Fucktards.

5) My account should have been "cleared" years ago because of all the grief you morons have caused me.

6) This is exactly the kind of crap that caused the fall of the Soviet Union. Perhaps I should be grateful it's as painfully obvious as it is that these over paid, heavily benefited a-moral robots have no clue what so ever of what they're doing. They must not talk to each other, ever! Seriously, what would it have taken for whomever opened my letter containing a money order for 85.00 to cover check #539 to call good ol' Ralph and let the asshole know what was going on? Don't they have any kind of data entry system over there?? This is what happens when government gets too big. They stop communicating, let alone caring about what the fuck they're doing.

So, MiSDU has cost me about 100.00 (time, travel, gas, aggravation, etc.) trying to get them to fix their fuckup, which they are now, predictably, blaming my bank for. What do I expect? HONESTY??? Pahleeeeze! We're talking about the GOVERNMENT here, not some private, accountable business subject to any laws or anything! There's no accountability within the government.

MiSDU - PID

2006-08-03T14:21:00.000-07:00

The check I mailed out the same day I received the impersonal letter from MiSDU - PID (SDUPID) was cashed yesterday, without a single word from MiSDU - PID that they've made an error and my checks were okay to send now. Morons.

I'm not buying any more expensive money orders. If they cashed that one, which was mailed a week after the one they never presented to my bank for payment, but lied about it being "returned," to collect a 20.00 fee to help pay their bloated operating costs, and over paid amoral robot workers, they can take them every week. Fucking idiots.

I wonder how many other parents have gotten ripped off of 20.00 because of MiSDU - PID's unethical, dishonest, tyrannical, looting, mooching practice of claiming a check was returned that was never even presented for payment in the first place??

Asswipes.

Dear MiSDU for Real

2006-07-29T08:17:00.000-07:00

"7/29/06

To whom it may concern,

Regarding Log ID: 4322

I'm writing to let you know that check #539 written on 7/20/06, which you claim was returned to you, was never returned to you because it was never presented to my bank for payment.

There was never any reason or cause for my bank to return check #539 to you. My bank advised me of your apparent error this morning, where I spent an hour and almost $5.00 on an money order, trying to have it fixed.

My bank is unable to correct your error, but wrote a letter in an attempt to illuminate this mistake made by you.

Enclosed with this correspondence is the letter from my bank documenting the fact that my check #539, dated 7/20/06 was never presented by you for payment from them.

A copy of this letter is also being sent to you from my bank.

MiSDU should not force me to purchase money orders or cashier's checks, which will cause further hardship, as this error was entirely yours, not mine.

To reiterate: Check #539 was never "returned" to you, it was never even presented for payment.Check #540, which was mailed yesterday is also a good check.

I am enclosing a money order in the amount of $85.00 to cover Check #539 written in the amount of $65.00, plus $20.00 which you are forcing me to incur as a "processing fee" for your own error, which is completely wrong, but I am left with no recourse.

Thank you for your consideration in this matter."

Teresa ............

What unbelievable incompetence on the part of a utopian unit. Fuckers never even presented the check for payment, and flat out lied about it being "returned!"

But, what do I expect from overpaid amoral robots??

Dear MiSDU...

2006-07-28T15:50:00.000-07:00

This is a rough draft. It works for me...

"Dear Cock-Suckers at MiSDU,

I realize that as a state bureaucratic agency, bound by Utopic Marxist, totalitarian ideology, you've never experienced an error from the private sector before, but I'm writing to let you know that check #539 written on 7/20/06, which you claim was returned to you, and check #540 which went out in the US Mail this morning are both good checks.

There was never any reason or cause for my bank to return check #539 to your organization. I am taking your form letter, received by me this afternoon, dated July 27, 2006, and stamped with Log ID Number: 4322 to my banking institution tomorrow morning to advise them that a remedy to this problem they've caused would be in their best interest, because I am in no mood to have additional problems caused by MiSDU compounded by them.

You should be receiving additional documentation from them to back up my claim that these checks are good, and you have no cause to force me to purchase money orders or cashier's checks, or to make a special trip to a money order seller, stand in line, and deal with teenaged clerks to purchase them.

To reiterate: Check #539 was returned to you in gross and egregious error by my bank, Key Bank. Check #540 is a good check. Both of these documents are legal tender. They are both solid and backed by US Dollars earned by my sweat and pain, and should be cashed accordingly so these funds can be forwarded to my ex-husband before his next sports car, boat, vaction home, toy du jouir payment is due.

Thank you for your consideration in this matter."

I Am PIIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSSSSSED!!

2006-07-28T14:53:00.000-07:00

Got an impersonal form letter in the mail today from MiSDU (Michigan Support Distrubution Unit) in Lansing telling me that the last check I sent was "returned" to them. WHAT!??!! Worse, they want 20.00 on top of the 65.00 I sent, for a total of 85.00. EVEN WORSE, they want me to send them expensive MONEY ORDERS because they won't take my checks anymore!!

WHAT THE FUCK??!!?

I desperately scanned my bank account on line, but my balance never dipped below 150.00 all month long! Fuck!

I called Key Bank (beware of these people, I swear!) and talked to a lady with a heavy accent, who said "I don't understand, you had funds available."

Yeah, no fucking shit, lady!! What the hell happened??

She put me on hold for several minutes, then came back and asked that I bring the letter in to them. Well DUH! I told her they had to fix this, because now they want me to send money orders. Fuckers.

Naturally, there is NO phone number on the stupid bueracratic letter head from MiSDU, only a P.O. Box. Naturally, this will take MONTHS to fix, because that's how fucking brainless machines like MiSDU work. They take their time when your on the paying end of the stick.

I just sent these fuckers another check this morning, so, what does that mean? They'll refuse to accept that one now? And I have to pay for a special trip to get a money order and the fucking money order?? BULLSHIT!!

"The MiSDU is notifying you that the band returned your check upaid.
You must immediately remit a cashier's check or money order to replace that check including the assessed handling fee. The replacement check should include the fee in the amount of $20.00 or 20% of the check amount, whichever is greater, as a fee for the processing of the returned check. To ensure proper crediting of your account and avoid any further collection action, make your payment payable to MiSDU, include a copy of this letter and mail it in the enclosed envelope to MiSDU, P.O. Box 30354, Lansing, MI. 48909-7854.

"Also, your checks will no longer be accepted as payment for child support. The future paymets must be either a cashier's check or money order and should be sent to the normal MiSDU address. Include all proper identifying information (FEIN, case number, SSN of payer and county identifier) with your normal payments. In the event you wish to request reevaluation of this action, send a letter expalining any extenuating circumstances to MiSDU , P.O. Box 30354, Lansing, MI 48909-7854. You must continue to submit cashier's checks or money orders until your request has been processed and you are notified of the decision.

"If you are an employer submitting payments on behalf of employees, your employees will not receive credit for this payment. You may want to consider the use of electronic payment methods to avoid these conditions in the future. Information on how to submit child support payments electronaclly can be obtained from our website at MiSDU.com

"Late fees will be assessed pursuant to Michigan Compiled Laws (MCL) 400.236, which provides in part: 'If a payer or source of income attempts to make a support or fee payment to the SDU and the payment transaction failes due to non-sufficient funds, the SDU may take actions to collect from the payer or source of income the support or fee payment amount, plus and amount for the expense of those actions.' A delinquent account may be assigned to the Michigan Department of Treasury for Collection. If assigned, the Michigan Department of Treasury has the autority to levy and seize financial assets including bank accounts. THIS DOES NOT LIMIT OTHER LEGAL ACTIONS THAT MAY BE TAKEN BY THE STATE OF MICHIGAN."

Nice, huh? Fuckers. Custodials don't get threatened with ANYTHING for failing to allow for visitations.

At least they gave me one sentence saying that I can protest (like they'll even listen or care or be speedy about changing this).

Thanks for all the trouble, Key Bank. Real swell of you to get me into trouble like this...

I am just fucking pissed beyond words right now.

I hate Terry. I hate MiSDU, and I really hate Key Bank at this moment.

I'm keeping every fucking receipt for every fucking money order I'm forced to buy because of this crap. Key Bank will be paying me back!

Now I'm off to write an "explaination" in hopes that the overpaid robots at MiSDU in Lansing Michigan will listen to me. Fuck you people!

Now Accepting Comments

2006-07-24T18:49:00.000-07:00

They'll be moderated, but I want to hear from other women fucked over by their ex-husbands.

Don't worry, men. You can comment too! But I will not tolerate any crap from custodial fathers about their children's mothers. You'll be blocked, got it? Sorry, but custodial fathers are immediately suspect to me, and for good reason.

March 9, 1992

2006-07-24T17:06:00.000-07:00

"Judy Fremke called. Terry sent a letter to FOTC. FOTC has change of custody order drawn that they now want signed. I am so upset, but see no way out. Judy wants me to sign it."

March 15, 1992

"Called Terry collect. Becky refused charges. Called him back from work. Told him I hated his guts again. Terry said he and Becky are both on AFDC. Neither one of them work. They get about 30,000.00 a year on it out there. I really hate him. Told him I wanted to start getting some stuff from the kids and pictures."

I never got a thing. Not one scrap. Looking back on it, he knew the job prospects in New England weren't going so well, so of course, if he had the kids, he could collect welfare for them, and Becky could for her child, which added up to 30,000.00 a year. My, the clarity the years can bring.

March 17, 1992

" Was supposed to work last night and missed it because I wrote down the wrong schedule. Ruth called Rachel, and Rachel called RC looking for me. Ruth was so worried. I felt so stupid."

Ruth was my boss at the Answering Service. I didn't have a phone.

April 20, 1992

"Pay edison bill. Rent carpet cleaner. Changed address on lisence plate. Cleaned Carpet. Played old records. Cried all night."

I must have just moved into the little white house in Auburn Hills.

April 22, 1992

"So depressed, don't know what to do. Miss the kids. Hate Terry. Stuck in dead ends. Don't know what to do but feel like crying all the time. Miss my friends. Miss being wanted and needed. Feel like I could disapear and would hardly be missed for long. I am really very unessential. I could be replaced easily. Want to go to bed early. I am so despensible, interchangeable. I hate feeling like this."

I felt like that for a long long long time.

May 10, 1992

"Got message Terry called work. "Emergency." I was so upset, thought one of the kids was hurt, called Terry back. All he wanted to do was ask me if I was taking the kids for the summer. Told him no, again, could not afford to. Already told thm that. Told him I sent a letter telling him I wanted them first week of Sept. Said they had school. Told him they could miss a day or two. Then he asked if I signed custody papers. Told him no because he was a jerk and I didn't trust him. Said "I'll see you in ct. " Then I said "Good!" and he hung up on me. I was so mad I coudn't see straight. I hate him so much."

I was barely keeping myself fed at that time. Working two jobs, and bringing in maybe 180.00 a week. I do remember telling him that I wanted to have the kids so bad, but I had no way to care for them while they were with me unless he resumed paying support. Terry refused.

May 11, 1992

"RC warned me about not doing my job well. Said he knew I was having some problems. Told him I was sorry, I missed the kids and hated my ex.
Get wrapping and card for Nicky's present and girl's stuff."

Frankly, I don't know how I didn't get squashed by a truck because I walked in front of it while distracted over my loss. Horrible horrible.

May 13, 1992

"Edison get bills seperatated. Pay 200.00. Edison would not seperate bills. Paid 200.00, arrange to pay 50.00 wk till bill paid. They don't care about right and wrong. Just getting the damn thing paid."

Terry never paid the last electric bill at our old house, which was 500.00. Edison attached that balance to my account because Terry was no where to be found.

June 23, 1992

"Terry called and told me he moved back to Mich. last Sunday. Freaked.
Had cramps all night. Didn't get to sleep till 3:30am."

"Freaked" is an understatement. Would have been nice if he let me know, but Terry's all into surprize attacks.

June 24, 1992

"Called in sick after going to RC's. Felt like shit. Went home, watched some soaps and went to bed."

June 27, 1992

"Picked up the kids and had a great time. Went out to breakfast, fair, mall, ice cream, party. Wow! Told the kids about Radar."

LOL! "Radar..." The memories come flooding back to me. More about "him" another time, but I'll say this: If that was insanity, I want it back. I should have known better than to share my imaginary friend with the kids. They ran home and told their dad, who immidately used it as cause to think me certifiable. Terry's like that with perceived enemies, always on the lookout for ammunition, even if it's something good. Jerk.

June 28, 1992

"Radar is totally nuts! Cannot believe the stuff on TV! Went to dad's all day. Had a great time. Nicky caught a 12" bass!"

June 29, 1992

"Lost my keys!!

June 30, 1992

"Found my keys in the tape drawer."

I have no idea what the "tape drawer" was!

July 3, 1992

"Just went home. Terry called work and said he was taking kids up north."

I hadn't seen them in a year, I spent one weekend with them in a year, and he wants to make sure I know who's in control and in charge. It's clear I wanted to come get them for the holiday, but no chance. I would have been nice to spend the holiday with them. Terry delights in denying me these simple things.

July 5, 1992

I have marked my date book "kids go home," but crossed it out because I never got them in the first place. I also noted that I wanted to take them out to lunch, then noted "'Couldn't go."

July 6, 1992

"Dr's appt. 9:20am. Dr Akroide. Nice Dr. Get girls new suites and barrettes. Get Raid roach killer. Call Rachel. Received Abatement from FOTC. "

I had a big lump on my neck for over a year, and I was worried about it. He was worried about it too and scheduled some tests.
The "abatement from FOTC" was a request for me to forgive the 10,000.00 + Terry owned me in back child support. Naturally I signed it. Honest dope that I am. I wish I had used it to fuck up his life as badly has he'd fucked up mine. "He stole my children!" Prick.

July 7, 1992

"Mailed abatement order to Friend of the Court."

How nice of me. Idiot.

July 9, 1992

"Got change of custody papers in mail. Couldn't sleep. Cried all night."

I could barely function either. See how he was lining these actions up? Nice that he had the time to plan this stuff out, and hire an attorney.

I was busy working 60+ hours a week for 250.00, and planning for my next weekend with the kids. I never saw it coming.

July 10, 1992

"Couldn't sleep again. Cried all night."

July 11, 1992

I have scratched out "Take kids to water park. See if Jessi can go." Then wrote: "No money. Went to Rachel's and then home."

July 12, 1992

"Brought kids home. Went to park. Dropped kids off, came home, went back to bed."

July 14, 1992

"Couldn't sleep."

I'll have plenty more to lose sleep over in the days and weeks to come.
I wish I could find my 1991 date book. It's buried somewhere.

Stop Bullshitting Children - Make it Equal

2006-07-24T16:30:00.000-07:00

Compulsory support ?

I say Compulsory Visitation! I dare you. Put your money where your mouth is and make it compulsory and mandatory. I dare you

Compulsory visitation. Compulsory visitation. Compulsory visitation.

I wanna see jail hanging over the head of my ex-husband, and every man or women disgusting enough to alienate one's children from the other parent.

I dare you, Big Daddy Government. And I DARE YOU Mr. and Mrs. Phoney Christian. Admit you're wrong, and do the right fucking thing! Apologize! Tell the kids the TRUTH! Liars! Fakes! Malafactors!

Like I'm going to just FORGET about what you did to me?? Like the Jews should just FORGET about what happened to them?? You're both disgusting people, and you know it.

Admit what you've done.

I'm not going away. And as long as I pay you a single dime, I'm going to keep reminding you of it.

Compulsory Visitation. Compulsory Visitation. Compulsory Visitation.

I wish the stupid United Way would stop giving money to the Women's Survival Center. The place is useless, honestly.

Independence Day

2006-07-03T16:53:00.000-07:00

Now that I've gotten a good taste of good old fashioned Christian Love and tolerance from my kids, it's time to recoup my mission:

Independence

"No matter how vast your knowledge or how modest, it is your own mind that has to acquire it. It is only with your own knowledge that you can deal. It is only your own knowledge that you can claim to possess or ask others to consider. Your mind is your only judge of truth - and if other dissent from your verdict, reality is the court of final appeal. Nothing but a man's mind can perform that complex, delicate, crucial process of identification which is thinking. Nothing can direct the process but his own judgment. Nothing can direct his judgment but his moral integrity.

...

"If I were to speak your kind of language, I would say that man's only moral commandment is: Though shalt think.
"But a "moral commandment" is a contradiction in terms. The moral is the chosen, not the forced; the understood, not the obeyed. The moral is the rational, and reason accepts no commandments...
"To live, man must hold three things as the supreme and ruling values of his life: Reason - Purpose - Self-esteem. Reason, as his only tool if knowledge - Purpose, as his choice of the happiness which that tool must proceed to achieve - Self-esteem, as his inviolate certainty that his mind is competent to think and his person is worthy of happiness, which means: is worthy of living. These three values imply and require all of man's virtues, and all his virtues pertain to the relation of existence and consciousness: rationality, independence, integrity, honest, justice, productiveness, pride."

_______________________________

"Morality pertains only to the sphere of man's free will - only to those actions which are open to his choice."

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My darlings, a gun isn't an argument. Having choices forced on you is malevolent. Anyone holding a gun to your head in pretense of "free will" is a malefactor and guilty of imposing false alternatives. Such people are unworthy of any consideration for your better natures. Resigning to the control of even one single person is an obliteration of your whole self.

"Society" can't make a relationship, but it can sure destroy them.